Monday, December 28, 2009

Making A New Year's Resolution That Sticks

It’s that time of the year again, when festivities are in the air and everyone is out partying and having a feast. Nothing wrong with that, I have been a complete glutton over the past 2 weeks as well and this weekend, I will be in Penang – Food Paradise of Malaysia.

It is also the time when people start making new years resolutions which usually don’t last. Last year, before we welcomed 2009, I gave some tips on how to make a proper new years resolution to be fitter and healthier. I hope those who did follow those tips stuck with the program. For those who tried and failed, perhaps this posting will be of some use to you.

Why do so many people make a New Year’s Resolution and never stick with it? The reason is, people don’t have a concrete reason for doing it. A lot of times, people just make a resolution, because:-
a) it is year end and that’s what they’ve been doing for the past umpteen years. So why not do it again.
b) people make a resolution because they feel guilty from all the year end festivities, be it eating too much, drinking too much or smoking too much. So to comfort themselves with this total loss of control, they tell themselves – It’s OK, starting next year I will cut down or quit blah blah blah.

Though these are reasons, they are not powerful enough to make a lasting change. What you need is a real reason which is impactful and will move you.

For the moment, I am going to be referring to making resolutions on a being fit, losing weight and becoming healthier. But with some small tweaks to this, you can easily use this technique for other things.

So how do you find this reason? Simple. Answer the questions below truthfully and honestly. If you lie and write something which you think is the correct answer, you are only cheating yourself. Take some time to think about your answers, and your answers should be nice long ones. 2 to 3 sentences at least. Be very descriptive with your answers. It’s best to sit in a quiet place when doing this and set aside 20 to 30 minutes of undisturbed “me time” for this session.

1) Why do you want to make this change. (what is the driving force for this change)
2) What is your goal. (be specific, if it’s weight loss, have a specific number of Kgs you want to lose)
3) How would you feel once you achieve your this goal. (your emotions, the praises)
4) What is it that you truly want to do in life, but you can’t right now because you are overweight, unfit and not healthy
5) What would happen if you conitnue your unhealthy lifestyle (include how you would feel if you continued)

Once you answer these 5 questions in writing, keep it with you and make a point to read these answers at least once a week. If you must, read it every morning when you wake up. By answering these questions properly and honestly, you will discover a deep reason for wanting to make the change and hopefully make you decide on wanting to embrace this change. If you find it extremely difficult to find the answers and still don’t feel moved, it means that subconsciously you are not ready to make the change yet, hence why your mind is rejecting the idea and finding it difficult to come to an answer. In short, if you have truly made a decision to change, nothing will stop you, and if you are not ready to make the change, then you will be stopping yourself.

So go ahead, take some time and answer these questions, and you will surely succeed. As usual, look forward to hearing your comments and I would like to wish Happy New Year to everyone.

PS: Can you read what's written on the women's bottoms? :-)

8 comments:

Jazlyn said...

oh, nice questions and i already have an answer to each of them. will definitely print them out and read them every morning.

made my resolution since november itself. oh ya, i can totally see what is on the chicks butt lol ..

Rajan said...

Jazlyn, long time no see. Welcome back. These questions are designed to focus your wants and bring about deep self discovery. Hope it helps.

Aizan Suhaira said...

Very true indeed. If you don't have a profound reason to change your lifestyle, that new year resolution won't last.

Unfortunately, many ppl don't see how important it is to lose weight/lead a healthier lifestyle until it's too little too late.

Rajan said...

Aizan: You are absolutely right. That's why question 5 is there... to make them realize that themselves. Realizing something yourself is more powerful and impactful than someone telling you.

anfield devotee said...

Me new year resolutions:

1) Drink more booze.

2) Cook more mutton & pork.

3) Perfect me cheese cake recipe.

Ok?

Rajan said...

AD: you making cheese cake???? This i got to try....

anfield devotee said...

Bro, senang aje. Will post recipe on me blog when me has the time.

Tried a few times, quite happy with results.

Even did a durian cheese cake which was nice, sticky & suitably "fragrant" . . . he he.

Rajan said...

AD: Yes yes, please do share. Me is sucker for good cheese cakes.